When it comes to giving relationship advice I usually tread
carefully. Relationships are messy, complicated and a lot of work. Often times,
when couples are going through troubled times one or both seek to find advice among their friends. However, I believe that one should be careful when
giving out advice. I believe that just because a couple is having issues it doesn't mean that they will automatically break up.
I mean, how many couples have you seen break up to only get
back together a couple months later? It happens a lot and life has taught me
that when you are giving advice to your friends it is best to not jump on the, “your-significant-other-is-a-jerk”
train. I've done this once or twice and lived to later regret it when the
person I did this with turned on me and said something along the lines of, “Well
I now know how you really feel about my significant other.”
Urgh!!! It’s frustrating because you are made to be the bad
guy. Well, you live and learn, and so now I have my generic answer of, “relationships
are messy, complicated and a lot of work.” This way I am still able to show empathy without being the perceived jerk
later on. It’s kind of crappy that I have to give generic advice but the truth
is there really is no good advice you can give because you aren't in the
relationship yourself.
On the flip side, I will make it easy on my friends by
typing this on my blog…
If I ever come to you for advice about anything, give me the
truth! I will NEVER make you regret that you were honest with me. If anything,
I will always value your opinions and that you were willing to stick your neck
out and give me advice no matter how hard it might be to hear.
--Dude, this post went
an entirely different way than I intended it to. I wanted to write about the
dating game and how I played it totally wrong…lol. I guess I’ll save that for
another time!
